I am thrilled to announce our guest feature on Natalie Bahadur’s “Favourite Things” blog on StyleAtHome.com. This is such an honor considering I love the magazine and have at least 50 copies in my house right at this moment. For this design & decor feature Natalie asked me to put together a few unique idea’s for stunning tabletops. There is something for everyone I assure you! To see what I came up with and to get more amazing tips from the pro’s follow Natalie’s blog at StyleAtHome.com/blogs/favouritethings.
As a Wedding Planner/Stylist who has worked in the booming city of Toronto for almost six years, I have seen the craziest things… I can tell you stories that would make your jaw drop. And no I’m not talking about horror stories per se but they are quite… Let’s see… insert rolling eyes here. A lot of what I get to see is live but via third party. Ever look at a photo of yourself and say, “Do I really look like that?” Well yeah, you actually do. Unfortunately weddings can bring out the best and absolute worst in people –problem is they don’t see it. My job as a planner/stylist sometimes reaches the boundaries of conflict resolution/mediation and third-party advice. Generally a lot of this has to do with the couple’s friends and family. There are many stress scenario’s that can occur but I have listed the 4 most common ones below along with stress prevention tips.
Where do you fit the mold?
Stress Scenario 1: We Are The World Bride. Wants everyone and I mean everyone to be in the wedding. Whether it’s asking for a million and one opinions to making sure everyone’s got a significant role in the wedding. The more the merrier! NOT! More confusion and stress? YES!
Stress Scenario 2: Solo-Bride. Needs no help, she knows it all, and does everything herself. She never speaks about her plans for fear that people will comment. Not even the groom has a say because after all it’s HER wedding.
Stress Scenario 3: Silent-Bride. Says nothing and goes along with whatever everyone else wants because they’re just so darn nice and helpful.
Stress Scenario 4: I Love My BFF Bride. Appoints her BFF as her wedding planner because her BFF did such a fabulous job planning her own… ONCE… And now with yours TWICE.
Stress Prevention 1 – Delegating: Delegate a few tasks to take the load off but make sure the people you choose for these roles are responsible and truly 100% want to help. Never choose out of relationship obligation.
Stress Prevention 2 – Control: Never appoint family or friends in a position where you lose control. For example, budget (discussing YOUR money), signing of contracts, interviewing vendors/making decisions, paying bills, coordinating logistics, etc.
Stress Prevention 3 – Advice & Opinion: Asking for advice and the opinions from 2 or 3 close friends or family can be a good sounding board but remember you have to make the final call… Choose who you ask wisely.
Stress Prevention 4 – Professionals: Although the thought of making your own wedding gown or aunt Bea making your cake OR your best friend planning your wedding MAY be a nice idea… STOP. Hiring professionals ensures that the job gets done and done correctly.
Borrowing your grandmothers brooch, asking your sister to recite a poem, having your mother and maid of honor help you choose a wedding gown, flipping through pages of wedding magazine with your girlfriends to get ideas, etc., are all wonderful ways to include your loved ones during this special time. Stress in planning a wedding is inevitable because everyone has your best interest at heart. But at the end of the day it’s about what you want… Ask yourself this, “Is it worth risking a valued relationship over aunt Bea’s best attempt to make you a wedding cake?”